Doug Valentine

Blogger, Window Cleaner, Entrepreneur

I am a 70 year old who is enjoying better health now than at any time since I was a teenager. There are many reasons for that, but the main one is that inspired by the reflection and the support of some amazing people in my life I have changed many things about the way I live including removing behaviours that were clearly harming me but which I had been pretending for a long time that I did not see.


As well as reaping the benefits of amazing health and vitality particularly compared to where I was at ten years ago, I am also in a loving relationship that is so great and beyond even my own imagination. Also my relationships with everyone else is on a different plane to where my relationships used to be only 10 years ago. In the past I used to limit my contacts to a few people that I trusted and chose to have little to do with the rest of the world. I was therefore quite withdrawn from people & life in general and although I didn’t see it back then, I was also very given up on life.


Going back 10 years, I can see clearly now that I came super close to becoming a serious dementia case. I understand that there are those within modern medicine and science who actually hold no value whatsoever in one person’s experiences and that is their choice and one which I feel certain will one day be shown to be very short sighted and one which effectively writes off a huge body of evidence that could and would provide a fuller picture of what is really going on in many different areas of medicine. 


I am not an expert in dementia in any way that is recognised by medicine or science, but I am on the other hand an expert in the experiences that my body and I have lived.


It is a fact that I was never diagnosed with dementia. But it is also a fact that even discussing the possibility of having dementia with a doctor was not something I was willing to do because I preferred my own self-made story that everyone has memory problems, as they get older, which I now know is not necessarily so. It is also a fact, though perhaps not fully accepted by the medical establishment that dementia takes twenty to thirty years to develop. From my own experience I know that I travelled a long way down the dementia road before waking up to the fact and I also have no doubt whatsoever that I would have eventually been diagnosed with dementia several years ago if I had not changed the behaviours that were leading me to it. 


This website is very personal and it is absolutely making no claims to bring truth on any subject.  Instead, it offers the truth of my own experiences.  


My purpose here is to share what I know from my personal lived experience, learnings and wisdom that it might help others. Similarly, with the heart and high blood pressure problems that I have experienced which are now healed.


One of the very important things that I have learnt over the past few years which benefited my health and well-being hugely, is the importance of expressing what is in my heart to be expressed and so this blog site may in time cover various topics that I feel may support others on their life’s journey but the starting point is certainly to share about the amazing turnaround in my health and relationships. Enjoy.